Every now and then I have to share with you the happenings in the life and mind of a certain dear friend of mine. Sometimes her experiences and comments on said experiences are so profound I know they are blog material; unfortunately, I can’t take credit for them myself. Anyway, the new event in her life is Match.com and on this event I have to give my two cents.
My initial reaction to her announcement of joining this site was, “Meat market!” To me, that’s all I could think of – a parade of people showing themselves off and promoting their own quality. I know I wouldn’t want millions of people looking at me and assessing whether or not I am good enough to give another thought. I still shudder at the thought. Besides, she might be being viewed by rapists, serial killers, and identity thieves!! Who could be that desperate for a relationship, I ask?
However, my dear friend insisted that my perception of this site and process was greatly inaccurate. She informed me that it is reputable and safeguards are put in place to ensure the security of all who join. Instead of being a “meat market,” it is a way for those who are serious about pursuing a relationship to find others who are equally serious, and who may possibly be compatible. Plus, it gives her more control over the situation, since she can select or ignore whomever she chooses. It might possibly be even safer than meeting and attempting to get acquainted with random strangers in person.
While I still hesitate at the thought of checking the site out myself, though she is encouraging me to do so, I am a little more open to the idea. Perhaps it’s a safe, inexpensive way to expand my social world, without having to actually drive to social gatherings and deal with all those dining out bills. Besides, it might be comforting to see how many eligible people are learning to live well…alone.