What I think of Bella, Edward and Jacob

Once upon a time there was a girl who fell in love with both a werewolf and a vampire. They both competed for her affections and defended her against assassin vampires.  Eventually she has to make a choice between them and when she chooses the vampire she must also make a choice about her destiny – remain human and live without her love, or become a vampire and leave the human world behind.  What will she do?

The Twilight saga has dominated teen girl conversation for several years now: first as a long, drawn out book series, then as a long, drawn out movie quartet.  There is much debate about whether or not the obsession with Twilight is healthy or not. I have read the books and seen the first movie, but since I have not succumbed to the Edward versus Jacob rivalry perhaps I can give share my opinion in a rather unbiased format.

When I evaluate a story I like to identify the themes that are being promoted. In this particular series the themes are somewhat vague. There is the obvious mythological theme involving gothic creatures and ancient folklore; this is broadened with the added romantic dimension. And of couse, you cannot forget the gripping theme of teen drama: attitudes, disregard of authority, gossip, love, and the useless school.  But you can’t deny the amazing themes of chivalry, determination, self-control, and sacrificial love, either.

Twilight does a decent job of emphasizing self-control.  Edward is a vampire, but he chooses to abstain from drinking human blood because it goes against his personal convictions of right and wrong. He and Bella also agree that, in spite of their desperate passion for one another, they will practice abstinence in their relationship. An excellent lesson for teens. Loyalty in friendship is another celebrated theme, as is true love.  No matter how inconvenient their love is, Edward and Bella remain loyal to their love, and even Jacob continues to be loyal to Bella despite the fact that she has chosen Edward over him.  On the other hand, these books definitely sensationalize drama. Bella has extreme mood swings and dreadful attitudes, and everyone seems to bend over backwards to cater to her. Authority, such as teachers and parents, are seen as childish and foolish.  Desperation is viewed as a virtue. Bella is desperate to get her way in her relationships and this is lauded as quite heroic.

So, it’s a draw: three for three. What is the final consensus about Twilight, Eclipse, New Moon, and Breaking Dawn? Overall, if the realistic, emotionally stable teen can read them with a grain of salt, they may prove to be an entertaining read. But the dramatically romantic, hormone-driven adolescent should avoid them at all costs.  Unfortunately, the former teen will have little interest in the boooks and the latter teen will have all the time in the world to devour them.  This is why these books need to be chaperoned by a mature adult who can remind the silly reader that Jacob and Edward don’t exist and she is, by no means, Bella.

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It’s MY Life. Let ME Live It! (part 2)

Last week we discussed the rights declared for us in the Declaration of Independence, particularly the right to life. We then stepped out on the road to discussing what exactly it means to have the right to life, especially the right to what happens to our bodies. This path, of course, led directly into a discussion about a woman’s right to choose what happens to her body and caused us to wonder about unwanted pregnancies. Does a right to choose apply to terminating pregnancies that interfere with the woman’s plans for her life? It does…unless it can be determined that the fetus within her is actually a living person. We then considered the definition of personhood and pondered what makes someone a person: physical development, mental activity, will to live, and unique individuality. After reviewing the stages of fetal development we realized that all of the elements of personhood exist during the fetal stages.

Some might say that this is an open and shut case. If a fetus is, in fact, a person, abortion is no longer an option. Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. Many would still argue that if an unwanted fetus interferes with the woman’s health, convenience, or comfort, she has the right to end it. That argument forces us to ask this question: “Does an individual’s dependence on me give me the right to end that individual’s life when his dependency becomes an inconvenience to me?”  For example, a cancer patient is dependent on the doctor’s care and knowledge in order to battle the disease.  What if the doctor gets tired of a particularly draining case? Does he have the right to end treatment or do something to end the patient’s life?   What about wounded warriors? They are dependent on their family for care and provision as they recover and rehabilitate? What if that becomes too bothersome to their caregivers? Do they have the right to end their lives? These examples could go on and on, even including citizens dependent on the government. If we are depending on the government for all that we need in life, they have complete control over us and who knows when they may choose to pull the plug.   Common sense would say that none of the caregivers in my aforestated examples have the right to end the lives of those depending on them. So why is it different for the unborn child?

The difference is between whether or not the child is wanted.  Here are two stories that testify to the difference: Unwanted child  vs. Wanted Children. Ultimately it comes down to this: we justify the ending of tiny, unborn lives because they are small or imperfect or unable to survive on their own, so that their existence will not interfere with our comfort and convenience. This argument, under any other circumstance would not stand in court as reasonable justification for murder, or even animal abuse! So why is it allowed for the 4,000 abortions that happen every day in America? 

Their hearts beat. Their brains are active. Their nerves feel pain. They have fingerprints and footprints. They try to flee danger. If they are not human beings, what are they? They are Americans with the RIGHT TO LIFE. It’s their life. Let them live it.

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It’s MY Life. Let ME Live It! (Part 1)

You’re too big. Too small. Too young. Too old. Too rich. Too poor. Too dumb. Too smart…How often do you hear why you can’t do what you want to do? Everybody wants to stand up for themselves and live out their lives in the way they want to, but I think Americans are especially ready to fight for their rights. After all, it’s written in our Declaration of Independence: “LIFE, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” Perhaps the right that we value most is the one about our life. It’s something that belongs to us.

In that vein, we want to choose what we want to do with our life. Whether it is education, career, marriage, living arrangements, and religious beliefs,we want to make the final decision on what we do with and to ourselves.  But perhaps the most debated choice is what we purpose to do with our bodies, even if that choice is destructive. The arena of a woman’s right to choose what happens to her body is where it gets especially heated. For some reason we all agree that people should have control over their own bodies, as long as it doesn’t harm another individual. You can drink all you want as long as you don’t get into a car and run someone over. You can smoke all you want as long as you don’t do it where I have to inhale your second-hand smoke. You can skydive all you want as long as you don’t take me with you, or expect me to care for you when you are paralyzed.  Thus, when a woman’s decision about her body affects another person it becomes a matter of legal, and moral, significance.

Perhaps we need to preface our discussion with the definition of personhood. According to the American Heritage Medical Dictionary,

per·son (pûrsn)

n.

1. A living human.
2. The composite of characteristics that make up an individual personality; the self.
3. The living body of a human.
4. Physique and general appearance.
The American Heritage® Medical Dictionary Copyright © 2007, 2004 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.
So let’s talk about what makes someone a living human. Is it the fact that they have arms, legs, torso, head, face? Is it their heart beating, their limbs moving, their nerves feeling? Is the fact that their mind is active and they are aware of their surroundings? Is it their desire to live? Is it their unique individuality that can only apply to themselves, such as unique fingerprints, footprints, and genetic configuration?
I would like you to ponder this for the next week. We will continue our discussion in even greater depth next week.
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Liberty 101

It’s election year. This means we are flooded with men and women declaring that they are the only ones capable of defending our RIGHT TO LIFE, LIBERTY, AND THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS. We have all heard those famous words before; in fact, we toss them around like throwpillows on a couch. Their meaning seems easy enough to comprehend – we should all be free to live and do what we please. But is that really true? Our familiarity with the famous quote above can cause us to disregard it as easily as bathwater running down the drain. We use it for our purposes, but don’t really consider the cost of taking it for granted.

Of the three rights, Liberty is the most forgotten. Freedom and Liberty are twin sisters, but definitely not identical. Freedom is the state of being free, while liberty is the state of being you. While freedom is being physically free, liberty is the state of having a spirit released from bondage. It is being allowed to trust your own mind and ability to make decisions as an individual.   A country that guards liberty has confidence in its citizens.

There is a fine line between having laws that safeguard liberty and having laws that infringe on liberty. There are certain things that a government must do: maintain a military to protect the country and its citizens; defend justice through an honorable legal system; punish criminals; issue taxes to provide for the maintenance of the country; manage imports and exports, as well as the utilities that service all of the citizens. These duties are clearly laid out in the Constititution. However, there are certain things that chisel away at liberty when the government assumes control of them. Consider the following:

-Education > this can be handled on a county-by-county level. Allow the parents and community members to determine the best way to educate their children. Why does the government know what is best for our children?

-Healthcare> private institutions are capable of creating successful systems for meeting needs. The more people that get involved increases the chances of dishonest gain. There are already examples of groups of people getting together to cut costs of healthcare and covering the needs of their members. If it’s been done once, it can be done again.

-Employment>Again, this can be solved on the state or county level. Allow communities to care for their own. When people are given responsibility for what most directly impacts them, they will rise to the occasion and do what needs to be done.

-Welfare>What I said above applies here as well. What happened to churches and community organizations getting together and helping the needy get back on their feet?  Apathy sets in when people feel like there is nothing they can do. If success can only happen when people get involved, they will.

-Personal well-being> Since when does the government have the right to tell me the best way to care for myself? If my actions are not directly hurting someone else, if I want to be irresponsible with my health it is my decision. Some examples of government-meddling in personal well-being include seatbelts, contraceptives, and even smoking (businesses should be allowed to decide what happens in their own establishments).

The above list contains just a few examples of areas where the government has assumed the responsibilities of what capable citizens and states can handle on their own. If liberty is the allowance of an individual to think for himself, then an ever-growing government means the growing disappearance of liberty. Let us be reminded that those in government have been elected by the people, so if we place such confidence upon our elected officials we can place the same amount of confidence in the populace that put them there (on the other hand, that can be a scary thought).

LIFE, LIBERTY, PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS. Liberty is the center link. We cannot have life or happiness without liberty. Liberty and big government cannot coexist.

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Family:Ties That Bind or Secure?

Every day I am a witness to the burdens that are either placed on or lifted from the developing identities of the young souls in my classroom. Many of my students have been blessed with loving, healthy families that continually affirm the growing individuals in their households. Sadly, many of my students come from broken homes whose shattered pieces have pierced their hearts to the very core of their being.

This is not to say that the children in the first group I mentioned do not, at times, come to school feeling sad or at odds with their families. On the contrary, they have bad days and rebellious moments like every normal child. Yet there is a difference between how quickly they recover their equilibrium and the bewilderment of the second group as they seek to understand what their equilibrium is. Obviously none of these children are lacking in material benefits since they are attending a private school, but experience has shown me that material possessions and an excellent education cannot replace a family affirming your place in the world.

I believe that a person’s identity is inextricably linked to his relationships with family. The students who are passed back and forth between split households, or spend hours alone in empty houses, or are abandonded by an unfaithful parent, consistently struggle with believing that they are not valuable or loveable enough for their parents to want them around. On the other hand, the children from intact homes, or a single-parent who makes effort to affirm them, are secure in their identity as a valuable human being.  And I also believe that no one outgrows their need for affirmation from their family, especially from their parents.

Where does this realization leave us? We need to accept the responsibility we have in our family: as parent, child, sibling, cousin, niece/nephew, aunt/uncle, grandchild, or grandparent. Then, we need to fulfill those roles to the best of our ability. We cannot restrain or withold the love our very souls were designed to give and receive. You might be afraid to remember the past and all of the torture and mistakes it holds, and so you allow distance to grow between you and your family, thinking that will alleviate the guilt. Perhaps you resent certain members of your family because you think they are loved more than you, or they remind you of things you want to forget.  Maybe you feel like you are the black sheep of the family, the one nobody wants to spend time with. It’s a possiblity that you were the hot potato child, passed from one household to another, and in the process you accumulated a mountain of hurt on your heart.

February is the month of love. As cliche as it sounds, we cannot change the old past. However, we can make the young past beautiful by forgiving and loving our family members today. If there is any possible way to embrace your family right now, do it. It will help you heal.

“Nothing connects you to who you are quite like the people who knew you when.”

~Whole Living magazine

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A Little Bunny Taught Me

Earlier this week I was bemoaning the fact that I couldn’t do more good, help more children, rescue more animals. I was feeling quite discouraged by all that I longed to do and the fact that my time, energy, and resources simply do not match my expectations for this moment. Many of these negative thoughts were streaming through my mind as I fed my outdoor critters. My little bunny, Ladybug, usually hops quickly over to his dish when I feed him, but on this particular morning he did not. Instead, he hopped over to the side I was closest too and settled down for me to pet him. He doesn’t normally do this, and despite the time constraint I was under, I stroked him for several minutes. He blissfully closed his eyes and wiggled his little nose and I could almost hear him say, “Sometimes more is less. The more you take on, the less time you’ll have for me.”

And it’s true. If we do not wait on our Creator to show us what He wants us to do each day, we will quickly grow weary as we attempt to do everything; and as we grow wearly we’ll end up doing far less than we were designed to do. To achieve the perfect balance we must be willing to settle for more by doing less than our egos would like.

Thank you Ladybug!

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The Best Cure Is Prevention

There’s a retired naval air station located in my community. It consists of acres of unused land, as well as abandoned neighborhoods and a few crumbling warehouses. When I walk through it I can almost hear the whispers of faded memories asking to be remembered and in my mind I see a community coming together to put a portion of the base back into service.

In my community there is an overwhelming number of invisible souls, animal and youth. I think we have gotten used to dismissing them to the “professionals,” whether the Humane Society or DHS, and they have gotten lost in the shuffle.  Whenever we see a need it is easier on us to call a number and feel we’ve done our part, than to actually do our part.

So if my dream came true, this is what it would look like:

– The military would donate 5 acres of land for the express purpose of animal rescue.

– Each class at the local elementary schools would adopt an animal by collecting food, toys, old blankets, and other pet supplies to donate each month, since the kids are too small to actually work with the animals.

-The local middle and high school would partner with the center to encourage their students in citizenship and would create a system so that their students would come and work with the animals each week.

-Homeschooling families would come in the mornings to help out.

-The neighboring Youth Challenge facility would arrange to send their youth over a few mornings a week to take the dogs running during their PT time.

-A portion of the land would be set up for agriculture. Members of the community who are good with the land, and students from the university, would come and teach the volunteering teens how to turn a desert into an oasis.  The process would remind the teens that we are all connected to nature and the blossoming land would create a peaceful place for training the dogs and encouraging potential adopters to spend time with them.

-The local churches would also sponsor the center and send volunteers to help with maintenance, as well as tutoring the volunteering youth who have an empty home to return to each afternoon.

-The community veterinarians would be willing to provide a few hours of pro bono services each week, and medical supplies at a discounted rate.

-The local businesses would help to financially support the center on an annual basis because they recognize that the best way to handle a problem (such as stray animals) is to turn it into a solution (preventing/reversing juvenile delinquency).

Many of you who are reading this are probably thinking, “It’s a great dream! But it would never work.” And a laundry list of legal, financial, logisitical reasons has probably popped into your head to justify your realism.  And you’re probably right. But a preacher once said, “Between the great things we cannot do and the little things we will not do, lies the danger of doing nothing.”

If everyone did a little there would be no great thing we could not do.

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Entitled

I am looking for scholarships to help fund my doctoral pursuits. I am an educator with a Master’s degree, but teachers in Hawaii don’t usually have salaries that reflect their signficant role in molding and preparing the next generation of leaders. Anyway, I digress.  The point is simply that I could use a few extra dollars to help fund my endeavors…So I do what every student in higher education usually does…I look for scholarships.

I figured that since I am a teacher I am

entitled.

I am pursuing a doctorate which makes me more marketable in today’s economy, so I must be

entitled.

I am advancing in the field of education which will benefit the society so I should be

entitled. 

I want to pay my own way as much as possible and live as debt-free as possible; in other words, I am not seeking handouts, just money that’s already designated for scholarships. Doesn’t that qualify me to be

entitled?

I am just above the poverty line, if not walking it, as a teacher in Hawaii, so I’m certainly

entitled.

Right? Wrong! 

I am not Black, Hispanic, Latino, Native American, Polynesian, I am White-European.

I am not gay, lesbian, bi-or transsexual.  I’m as straight as they come.

I am not a single parent. I’m simply single.

I am not on welfare because I have a supportive family.

I am not first generation college since my father worked hard to get his education.

I don’t belong to a million different prestigious organizations and clubs, since I prefer to volunteer at church and work at a local vet clinic.

The only thing I am entitled to is feeling like I should be entitled.

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My thoughts on Percy Jackson

There’s a popular book series out called Percy Jackson and the Olympians, by Rick Riordan. My students insisted upon my reading them and once I started I embodied the cliche, “I couldn’t put the books down!”  Those of us who are on the religious side of the fence may struggle with wondering if it is appropriate to read books about Greek mythology; however, I found the books positively enlightening in many ways.

Percy Jackson is a middle schooler who is a normal kid wanting to live a normal life despite being afflicted with dyslexia, ADHD, and calamites that follow him wherever he goes. He can’t seem to complete a full school year at any school because something catastrophic always happens that results in his being expelled.  Not too far into the first book, Lightning Thief, we find out, with Percy, that he is a demigod (hence the dyslexia because he can innately read ancient Greek) and the ADHD (because he was born with fighting and self-preservation reflexes). The question is: which god is his father? Once he finds out he must embark on great adventures to preserve the peace on Mt. Olympus and simultaneously save the world from certain incineration.

Percy Jackson is a protagonist that any kid can identify with. He does not like sitting still and learning about stuff that seems so irrelevant. He’d much rather be at Camp Half-Blood learning how to ride pegasi, practicing his swordfighting skills, and playing ultimate capture the flag. He embraces the thrill of dangerous adventures where everything is at stake. His friends are his world, yet he loves his mom and would give his life to protect her. Insecurities are not strangers to Percy; he can’t fit in with the normal crowd and he often wonders about his dad, and if his dad truly loves him. 

The Greek gods are a fascinating bunch, but the books portray them as beings with human natures times 100. They do not keep their emotions in check and when they are in a bad mood (which happens quite frequently) Earth is the punching bag. These are not the kind of gods you picture saving the world, nor are they a trustworthy refuge you can run to when you feel your world is caving in because they are probably the ones who started the avalanche. Nevertheless, the intricate lives and backgrounds of these divine bullies are fascinating and complex; Rick Riordan manages to simplify them enough for the average middle school reader (and his teacher) to understand and remember them.

The enduring themes of this series make them a valuable use of time away from the game consul or Facebook account.  Maintaining relationships by practicing loyalty and respect can make an unlikely hero of each one of us. And when life’s brutal challenges attempt to vaporize or miniaturize us, we should remember that they’re simply more adventures that will reveal our hidden bravery and courageous hearts.

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Christians: Royal Jokes or Royal Ambassadors?

I am not ashamed to say that I am a Christian; I have loved Jesus as my personal Lord, Savior, and Friend since I was old enough to reason. Nevertheless, I would be the first one standing in the imperfect line, should one ever be made. As the Apostle Paul once said (and I paraphrase), “I do everything that I don’t want to do and I don’t do anything that I want to do.”  I recently read an article in the January 16, 2012 issue of TIME Magazine about Queen Elizabeth and the example she has set for Princess Kate. While it listed 5 specific lessons that the new Princess could apply as she settles into her new position of royalty, I gleaned 6 which Christians would do well to implement as Image-bearers of their Namesake.

1. Honor the title:Queen Elizabeth understood that the title she bore was something entrusted to her by her country and her people, it was not something she could own. However, while that title came with extreme privilege and fame it also came with great responsibility. Its honor rested in her hands. She could either malign it and drag it through the mire of scornful behavior and disgraceful irresponsibility, or she could elevate it by conducting herself as one with trustworthy character. And so it is with the title of ‘Christian.’ Whatever follows after the title has been given will be associated with the name, hypocrisy or humility.

2. Resist the lure of celebrity and cultivate humility: Every queen has the opportunity to become a household name by providing material for the media and pictures for the paparazzi.  And what female does not dream of being a princess or royalty so that she can wave to the adoring masses?  A favorite phrase among Christians is “I’m a child of the King” or “I’m a princess because my daddy’s the King.” Likewise, I often see Christians strutting around with a “Treat me well, I’m royalty” look.  Queen Elizabeth resisted; she preferred the background and many times was overlooked because of her discreet conduct. She had taken to heart the advice of her Queen Mother: be “the vehicle through which this love for country can be expressed.” May we Christians do likewise: not seek the limelight by by patting ourselves on the back for our good intentions and high ideals, and loving to take credit for our successes. Instead, may we be inconspicuous doers of good.

3. Stay with your look; it shows confidence and reassures the public: the Queen knew how to gradually change her look to be appropriate with her life stages, but it was gradual enough to not appear flaunty or insecure.  She also knew what colors and styles to wear depending on the occasion and setting.  Christians should also learn to be consistent in our conduct, values, and words so that we can be easily recognized wherever we go. The Bible says that the world should know us by the love that we show to those around us.  If we change our ways depending on whether or not we are surrounded by likeminded people, we are sending the message that we are not assured in what we believe. And if we are unsure, is it truly worth believing? When we mess up we’re always ready to extend grace to ourselves and thank God for second, third, and hundreth chances, but we take little responsibility for the fallout of our mistakes and, sometimes deliberate, choices to be self-focused.  We are often very quick to demand mercy for ourselves, but first to cast judgment on others.  We focus on external religiosity, rather than internal refining. This displays Christianity in a very negative light to the world.

4. Master your brief: From the time she was very young, Queen Elizabeth was immersed in the history and details of her country and future responsibility. Before she attended any major discussion, delegation, dedication, or dinner, she studied the background of the people she would be meeting with, as well as the purpose of the event. This always earned her further respect, for the people realized that they and their country mattered to the Queen.  And so it should be for Christians. Are we well-versed in the Bible and its commands for godly living? Are we familiar with the history of our faith and the multitudes of saints and martyrs who laid the stepping stones of Christianity upon which we now walk? Do our children understand why we believe what we do? We often accept mediocre results because “we’re only human,” instead of excellence because “we’re children of the King.”

5. Embrace the countryside and its pursuits: Queen Elizabeth enjoyed the countryside and the people of the country. She knew it was important to get away from the busyness of city life and royal business in order to remember and understand what it’s like to be human. Christians must take time out of the chaos of living in order to remember why we are here and what life is all about. Just as Jesus took time out to be still and commune with His Father, so should we. And in those times He will comfort, heal, and instruct us in the way we should go. 

6. Support William without overshadowing him: This is obvious enough when referring to Kate, but Christians need to apply this in reference to Jesus.  The world sees individual people, but we want them to see Jesus.  When we do something that is not the normal, selfish thing to do it is delightful to bask in the glory of praise; in those moments the focus has overshadowed the One for whom we live and serve. Let all we do be in His name and for His recognition, for without Him we would not be.

You might say that my expectations are too high for the average human being. Probably so. Nevertheless, I must say that if we choose to bear Christ’s name than we are no longer in the league of average. We have assumed a divine legacy and must give our lives in keeping the royal standard from being trampled beneath the filth of ignorance and disgrace.

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